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"Real Self-Care: Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included" by Dr. Pooja Lakshmin redefines self-care, challenging the modern commodification of wellness. The book critiques what Lakshmin calls “faux self-care,” a culture-driven focus on expensive rituals and products, and introduces a framework for authentic self-care rooted in boundaries, self-compassion, and empowerment. Through the lens of her experiences as a South Asian psychiatrist and woman of color, Lakshmin addresses the systemic and cultural barriers marginalized communities face when asserting their self-care needs.
Key Takeaways about Real Self-Care
Self-Care is a Verb, Not a Noun
Lakshmin highlights how society treats self-care as a purchasable commodity. Instead, real self-care involves introspection, setting boundaries, managing guilt, and fostering community.
Self-Care is Hard—Especially for Marginalized Communities
The author delves into the cultural and systemic challenges, particularly for individuals from collectivist cultures, where self-care can be misinterpreted as selfishness. Lakshmin confronts these difficulties with authenticity, rejecting toxic positivity and emphasizing systemic oppression’s role.
About the Author
Dr. Pooja Lakshmin is a South Asian psychiatrist and an advocate for equitable mental health care. She draws on her professional expertise and personal experiences, sharing candid insights about chasing “faux self-care” and her journey toward meaningful self-care practices.
Why It’s Worth a Read
"Real Self-Care" is a thought-provoking critique of the wellness industry and a practical guide for reclaiming authentic self-care. Lakshmin’s four principles—boundaries, self-compassion, creating a self-care compass, and asserting power—are tools for reflection and action. The book’s emphasis on intersectionality and its inclusion of reflective exercises make it valuable for anyone interested in understanding and practicing sustainable self-care. While primarily addressing women-identifying individuals, the book offers insights applicable across genders, helping readers understand and support those navigating societal pressures.
Closing Thoughts
Dr. Lakshmin integrates principles of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and narrative therapy, inviting readers to examine their relationship with daily challenges through curiosity and compassion. Uniquely, this book goes beyond typical self-help frameworks by addressing privilege, oppression, and systemic inequities, making it an essential read for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of self-care.
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